Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Connection

Avoid assuming what you read or hear online is true. Check the facts against a legitimate resource. 

Beware:
Survivor diary blogs and videos – they are often unresearched and based on feelings. This kind of content can help you understand that someone else feels like you do, but may also contain harmful ideas for use in recovery. 

So, be careful and, as always: Never take anything you read online as a fact, especially regarding mental and physical health, before checking with your personal medical professionals. 

Consider making a list of questions you have before you start researching. 

Consider putting a cap on the time you spend researching the narcissist and narcissism so that you don’t delay healing too long. 

Consider spending more time researching and implementing the best ways you can recover from narcissistic abuse instead. 

Consider whether research makes you feel more or less empowered.

Consider avoiding websites, videos, books, or blogs that aim to shame you or blame you for what has happened to you. Narcissistic abuse is not your fault. 

Remember that no matter how much research you do, you will still need to take action in order to get through recovery from narcissistic abuse.

That’s the hard part, but it’s the most important part. 

A lot of survivors of narcissistic abuse get stuck in the research phase because they obsess on proving something to themselves (and sometimes others) about the toxic person in their lives.

And while this information may become a short-term obsession and it will take up space in your head, there is a point at which it can become detrimental to you.

If you are overly concerned about labeling the person you’re struggling with, you’re going to spin your wheels. 

The bottom line is that if someone in your life is actively manipulating, verbally, and emotionally abusing you, or causing you to be miserable in any way on a consistent basis, you have a right and maybe even a responsibility to walk away. 

Depending on your personality type and ability to connect with what you’re learning, you might choose to limit your research to the basics, or you might choose to take it to the next level. 

To best utilize your knowledge and understanding of narcissistic abuse, consider getting involved with a support group or a discussion partner, such as a certified narcissistic abuse recovery coach.